Coaching is not just about setting goals and achieving them.
I often meet women who don’t want to do more — they’re tired of meeting expectations, of constantly striving. They feel they’ve already done enough. Many feel lost, exhausted, sad, or even depressed.
In these situations, it’s important to create a loving, soothing, and peaceful space — one where you can simply feel good, where you can lay down the burdens of everyday life and just be.
The most common issue I see is that they’ve switched on autopilot. They’ve lived disconnected from what they truly want, silencing that small inner voice that once told them everything was possible — that fire that used to move them, that beautiful vision of a promising future.
Where can we find the energy to set goals when we feel so tired? The answer, very often, is to minimize the effort. It’s not about adding more “shoulds,” but gradually replacing obligations with conscious choices — and recovering energy by reconnecting with our true essence.
This process takes time, self-kindness, and the gentle guidance of a coach who can help identify the values that drive each person. From there, it becomes possible to sketch the outline of a new stage — one that feels lighter, brighter, and more joyful.
When we’re in an existential void, even getting through daily life can feel overwhelming. Thinking about the future becomes a mountain to climb. Sometimes, we don’t even want to talk about the future — because it just doesn’t make sense anymore.
You might ask: Why should I make an effort to clarify my future?
What if I just want to let life guide me to the answers? Why do I have to decide right now?
Coaching isn’t about writing down a fixed plan for your future and signing it at the bottom. We can begin a coaching process simply because we don’t know what we want. It’s okay not to be okay. It’s okay to be tired and sad. But if that feeling lingers and keeps us from feeling alive, then it’s important to take a step.
I often use the metaphor of a painter in the midst of an artistic crisis, staring at a blank canvas — unable to draw even a simple sketch, paralyzed. That’s what happens when our inner light has dimmed.
As a coach, I help draw that first sketch — with very soft lines at first — in connection with the person’s core values. That sketch can change over time; we can draw a new one or begin to color it in. At first with light watercolor shades, and gradually with more vivid tones.
Because to emerge from a crisis — whether artistic or existential — we always need a sketch.
Start sketching your future by visiting my coaching page here: Transformational Life Coaching for Women in Transition.
